Violent Outbursts

Parent To Parent

Question:

Hi there, just wanted to know if you could help me, I have a son named William he was 5 last week, I've always noticed something amiss with my son. He never slept from the day he was born and always did things alot quicker than usual i.e. Walked at 9 month's, Talked at 13 month's. He was expelled from every private nursery school in York where we live, he got expelled from his normal nursery school at the age of 3and half. He now attends a special needs school which has 3\ 4 teachers and only 7 other children. He is getting worse. Only last week this is what i went through; Wednesday, he attempted to set fire to his bedroom and did burn alot of the thing's in the room, Thursday, he stabbed me with a knife, Friday he smashed the windshield in the car, Saturday he stabbed 2 members of the public with a sharp item, Sunday he punched a lady walking in the street in her tummy and she was 8months pregnant. I have requested care with Social Services as I CANNOT control my son and my fear is him getting worse, I have been several times to the Hospital to see if William has a disorder but I'm told he won't be able to looked at or treated till the age of 6. I'm at my wits end and don't know if I'm making the correct decision'. I am a single parent with no support, my mum is Spanish and lives in Spain. Please Help....

Show him that you have put a tick by this section for the simpliest of good reward (ie: sitting nicely on his chair even if this is only for 1 minute) be quick with the Good reward, then you can build up slowly.

Contact your local school system. Ask to be guided to the special education department and see what they recommend. Unfortunately a lot of medical doctors think that children will grow out of behaviors. That is not always the case. I have a small story of my own but that's not important, what is you getting support for your child's behaviors.

When I first noticed that jJck was ill, my son, I too was told there was a waiting list and that he wouldn't be seen for a few months. I saved and had the first appointment privately and managed to get in within 2 weeks. Then the psychiatrist saw Jack on the national health.

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I have a son with ADHD and ODD. He is soon to be eight years old. I have tried alot of medications, alot with no help. The first medication I tried was ritalin, Which worked for about two years. After, we started to noticed he was getting depressed. The depression turned to anger. Next was Adderall, which had the same effect. Same with concerta. He now is on Wellbutrin. The only thing I can tell you is trial and error.Do alot of research. Read as many books as you can.The reward system works very well.Research into herbal remedies like St Johnswort and KavaKava. Talk to your doctor or an herbalist about remedies that will work.There are alot of people that I know that aren't having any luck with medications. But then there are some I know where it has worked for them.